Category Archives: Thoughts ni Tolits

Thoughts ni Tolits : Chapter 6

Random thoughts. Sixth installment. Hoping for a seventh.

Separation is necessary for growth. A bird eventually has to leave its nest in order for it to learn to fly.

Demotivation is the biggest threat to excellence.

Some people are like canned goods. They have expiry dates. These people will only be in your life for a specified period of time, then begin to fade until they’re gone.

It’s hard not to judge a book by its cover when that’s all that there is.

Beware of promises. Most are made to get you to do something for the person making the promise and once that’s done, so is that promise.

The point of you responding to someone online who you do not even know, to fight for some celebrity who does not even know you exist, is totally lost on me.

A sharp slap across the face is better than whispered conversations behind one’s back.

Life has it’s way of knocking you down a peg when you are flying too high.

There will always be that someone who will not like you. That’s okay.

When a tree grows up, it has to branch out to survive. However,  it also has to keep it’s roots firmly planted to the soil it grew up in, otherwise it will be uprooted when strong winds come.

When you screw up and blame everyone else, except yourself. Of course it’s not your fault. You’re perfect.

Amazing how people can easily lie, what’s even more amazing, is when they actually believe the lie they tell.

The biggest regrets will always be the risks we decided not to take.

Think of what you need to do to succeed instead of finding ways to undermine the success of others.

We work for money. Anyone who says otherwise is either filthy rich or lying.

 

 

 

Thoughts ni Tolits : Chapter 5

Accumulated thoughts. Collection of rants. A comeback post.

There are those who will grow with you and be there for the rest of your life. Then, there are those who won’t.

At times, it’s the happiest of memories can cause the most pain.

I only explain to those who matter. If I stopped explaining to you, now know why.

Looking at a person’s past can give you an idea of how they might be in the future.

Mistake can be a good teacher, if you are smart to learn from it.

I choose to stay quiet not because I have nothing to say, I just don’t want to explain it after.

Learn to give room for new people but never neglect those who’ve always been with you.

No one likes a know-it-all. We already have Google for that.

You can not fix something when you do not know what’s wrong with it.

If you don’t start moving now, you might wake up one day and find out that everyone has moved forward and you’ve been left behind.

Never consider giving up, especially when you have not even tried yet.

Not everyone understands the thin line between being straight forward and being tactless.

The amount of time a person spends on you is the measure of your importance to them.

Count your friends and followers on social media. Now tell me how many of those are actually your true friends.

 

Thoughts ni Tolits : Chapter 4

Thoughts come from observations. Rant are my frustrations.

The best thing about being mysterious is no one will ever truly know you. The downside is no one will ever truly know you.

It’s easier to point out other people’s mistakes than to acknowledge yours.

I don’t understand why some people feel the need to put  other people down just to feel better about themselves.

Effort is something that goes unnoticed until it is not being exerted anymore

Focusing too much on wanting to be who everyone else wants you to be deprives you the chance to be who you want to be.

The ability of children to forgive and forget quickly and not hold grudges is enviable.

We tend to save our harshest criticisms to the ones we care for the most.

By thinking too much we are causing the problem to seem bigger than it really is.

When you can be silent with someone but not feel awkward about it.

Should you be happy when something you helped put together can now survive even with you or should yo be sad since now you are not needed anymore.

I’ll take hate over indifference. Hate still cares. Indifference makes you nonexistent.

It’s better to commit mistakes when young than to live with regrets when you get old.

 

 

 

The Arayat Adventure

Sitting on a huge, uneven rock halfway up Mount Arayat, while my eyes feasted on a spectacular view, the internal debate I’ve always had about the choice of where my ideal place to live will be was going through my mind again. Is it on a mountain top or is it by the beach. It’s like there were two separate teams inside my head, vying for the championship title.

Team Mountain has the view from the top, how things look different from a vantage point, how one can almost touch the clouds. The fresh mountain air. The sounds from trees and other living creatures. Team Beach on the other hand has lying on the sand, hearing the sound the waves make when they hit the shore, watching the sun rise then set, feeling the cool sea breeze. Both offer priceless sensory overload in their own distinct way.

I’ve been to several beaches and it was one of my goals this year to try and climb a mountain. Like an normal person today, I posted this goal on Facebook. That status quickly became a chat box, friends sharing their suggestions some even offering to come with me. (Thanks guys!) February 8, was the day I was finally able to turn this goal into an adventure.

I try to approach each new adventure with a positive mindset. There is always that possibility that things will not go as planned and I make sure that it will not ruin the adventure for me. That was how I managed to still be smiling and excited for the trip even after waiting for an hour and finding out that the driver of our rented jeep was not able to wake up early and we will be riding a tricycle all the way to our destination instead. Hey, at least we’re not walking and our new ride was less expensive.

The level of my excitement shot up even more once we reached the the base of the mountain. That was it, I really will be doing it! We started walking, along the way we passed by life size statutes depicting the stations of the cross. I think this part is called Bundok Banal, I could only imagine the crowd of people who visit this place during the Holy Week. We passed by a DENR outpost where we submitted a signed waiver, which by the way I just signed but did not read since it was prepared by the people I was with. That’s how much I trusted them. It could also be because I was just too lazy to read it.

Before, I had wanted to climb a mountain with the help of an elevator. I wanted to avoid the effort of the actual climb thinking I am not capable doing it. This adventure changed that. I found myself enjoying the effort of the climb. Kaya ko naman pala eh! You really will never know if you can do something, until you actually do it.  

There was so much to see, I was so absorbed with exploring and appreciating what I was seeing that there were moments that I forgot that I had companions. During our climb, I was half expecting to get even just a glimpse of monkeys or birds, but I did not see or even hear any. The only creatures I saw were two bugs in the process of procreating and ants industriously working their butts off. Kuya Jun, our guide said before there used to be a good number of labuyo (wild chickens) and monkeys in Arayat, but due to hunting they’ve either gone into hiding or are just plain gone.

The path we took up the mountain was marked with yellow paint, mostly painted on rocks. It was obvious that this was the path people took to reach the summit, which was our original plan. We would pause every so often to drink, eat, catch our breathes and take pictures. Until finally we reached the spot our guide called the White Rock. This is where we will be eating our lunch. It was also the spot  where we decided to reschedule our goal to reach the summit.

I found the rock I was sitting on after lunch. It afforded me a bird’s eye view of the land below. It felt really good to just sit there where everything seems so near yet so far. It was like you can touch it all at the same time. In some ways we do. Every trash that is thrown carelessly touches it in a negative way. On our way up I saw the amount of trash people leave behind and it saddened me. We are used to city living where someone will always be there to clean  after us. It’s different here, no one will be there to clean after us. It wouldn’t really hurt if we bring down with us the trash that we brought up.

It is often said that it’s hard to get to the top. This is true, both literally and figuratively. However on our way down, I realized that going down is twice as hard. We had to carefully watch each step we took since one wrong step can send us sliding down the rocky terrain. I enjoyed this process though, thinking of it as strategy game, planning each step before I make it, each one taking me closer to my goal. This can also be likened to the way we choose to work our way up in our lives. Always respect the people you pass by during your ascent and not treat them as mere stepping stones to reach your goal. Remember, they will most likely be the same persons you will meet on your descent.

Although we were not able to reach the summit, I still consider this a personal achievement. Not bad for a first try if you ask me. This trip definitely won Team Mountain major points. I am still undecided though and that’s awesome, I still have more adventures coming to help me decide whether it’s Team Beach or  Team Mountain.

Shout out to Kuliat Mountaineers, Kuya Jun and The Legendaries for making this adventure possible. Big thanks guys!

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more adventures coming..

 

 

 

 

 

Thoughts ni Tolits : Chapter 3

Fresh rants and random thoughts

Some from me. Some from others.

Preconceived notions prevent us from ever knowing the truth.

The harder you push to get what you want, the further it gets.

We all lie. I hate bad liars though. If you are going to lie make sure you will never get caught.

I wish i was born filthy rich so I can help solve people’s problems. Then again money is not everything. The time that you give to people will be worth more to them than anything money can buy.

When you know when to bend, you will never break.

Aside from family, the most awesome gift an only child can ever hope to have is the gift or true friends.

What you give isn’t always what you will get.

Time will come when all that will be left are the ones who chose to stay.

We are often blinded by how much we want something or love someone that we can’t see he truth even if it waved a neon colored flag in our faces.

Dreams  are the subconscious thoughts that we do not want to admit,  fighting to surface.

Caring about what someone thinks makes them important. When you stop caring about their thoughts, their importance also diminishes.

When you know you’ve done your part, you will not regret anything if it does not work out.

Excuses signify reluctance. When you really want it you will exhaust all possible ways to make it happen.

It’s not that I have nothing to say. I just don’t think you would will be able to comprehend what I have in mind.

You will not know if you can do it if you don’t do it.

I find it amusing when people choose to judge me based on what they see not knowing that what they see I only what I want to show.

Gravitating towards toxic people is an unfortunate skill most of us seem to have but is oblivious of.

Keep your negative thoughts about other people to yourself. If you can’t, tell them to their faces and not behind their backs.

 

Thoughts Ni Tolits: Chapter 2

Random rants. Random thoughts. These are mine.

Sorry is just a word until it is backed up with actions.

Life will be less complicated if we knew how to say No when we don’t want to, and Yes when we do.

Being a part of someone’s life, no matter crucial you feel you part is, does not give you control over that life. Sometimes all you can do is stand by and watch them make their decisions and be there to cheer if it succeeds or help pick up the pieces if it falls apart.

There are certain things that we know will hurt us but we still do anyway. Self inflicted torture.

One day you will meet someone who will be an exemption to every single rule you have lived by.

Learn to let go of what weighs you down.

There is a thin line between making your absence felt and being forgotten all together.

Honesty is sometimes like pouring rubbing alcohol on an open wound. It disinfects it making the wound heal faster. A lie will not hurt at the time it is said, but it will let the wound fester.

When someone leaves, never think you are not good enough. You are. That person was just not bright enough to see it.

My promises come by rarely. But when I make them, I keep them.

Just because you are always there for everyone when they need you, it does not mean that they will all be there when you need them.

I always have my back turned so that I will never see when people leave.

Falling in love just happens. Staying in love is a choice.

Change is constant. The earlier we learn that the sooner we can accept it when it happens.

The connection people have when alcohol is involved is amazing.

When the person you love does not love you back, it does not mean you are unloved. Someone loves you, its just that you are not aware of it or you just don’t love them too.

These days it’s quite difficult to find someone who actually listens and not just hears.

I am not sure what will happen or where it will go, but I am willing to take my chances.

Challenges are the crayons that make life colorful.

Let no one take that smile away.

 

Peace out!

Weekend begins Thursday

When life gives you lemons don’t just make lemonade, sell it! Make money out of the d#mn thing! (Cliche alert!) This is exactly  what I always try to do, metaphorically of course.

In this story my lemon is my ambiguous work schedule. That will be as much as I will say because I don’t want this post to turn into a full on rant fest. This is a feel good story on how my weekends now begin on Thursdays.  It was supposed to consist of three parts, unfortunately the turn of events did not permit the third one to happen.  So yeah, I owe you that ONE coffee, you know who you are. The story is now down to two parts, the unexpected 24 hour challenge and the awesome session with my brothers. Both of these involve booze and good friends. Don’t judge and drink responsibly.

My phone alarm goes off by 2:00 am and my day begins. Wake up. Eat. Shower. Leave home. Work. Leave work. Home. That was the routine for the whole week. Thursday ends that routine and begins my weekend of adventures!

I as much as I can, I never pass up invites from friends. Kaladkarin is the word I often use to describe this trait of mine. I am a firm believer that time is the most important gift we can give people. This belief of mine lead to a adventure packed weekend.

Adventure number one, the 24-hour challenge one involves a good friend who is like my brother, awesome new people, food, booze, love and life talks, sexy singers, a motorcycle, and elementary school buddies. I joined my brother and his work buddies for a couple of beers. What I found amazing about this session is how comfortable I immediately felt. Except for my buddy, it was the first time I had met these people and yet it somehow it felt we had known each other for quite some time.

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The night progressed into more stories and laughter with the voices of the sexy singers slash dancers serving as our background. When a familiar song is played we sing along, we swapped stories and views about love and life like we were indeed old friends. New friends, new adventure, life is good.  It was around 12 in the morning when this part of my adventure ended.

A buddy from elementary school happened to work nearby. I was lucky to be able to hitch a ride on his motorcycle, since public transportation to my place at that time of the morning are hard to come by.  My elementary school friends and I kept in touch even though we don’t get to hang out that often. This was our topic till we reached our hometown.  Imagine our surprise when we saw one of the people we were talking about having an after work session at a store owned by one of our friends. we joined them for a few beers and planned a full scale reunion.

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It was past two in the morning by the time I got home. The unexpected 24 hour challenge accomplished! #feelingproud Haha.

The next day I had to wake up early (I woke up at 10:45am. Haha.) to prepare my place for visitors. This is adventure number two. My brothers from college, the Busy Boys, were coming over later that day for one of regular sessions. These sessions are held alternately on each of our places. I was able to convince them that it was now my time to host. This was one of our longer sessions since they will be staying the night. These guys are the people I see myself hanging out with when we all have our own families until we are all old dudes. We were not complete, which was usually the case since we all have different commitments to attend to, but those who can always come to these session. After a dinner of home cooked sinigang, store bought sisig and Kapampangan chicharon (the one with a bits of meat stuck to the skin. Sarap!) We started the session. Stories from this session will be for us to know and for you to find out. Altough I will say this, it was quite uncomfortable since I found myself being the one on the hot seat. Haha.

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Session continued till the wee hours of the morning. The next day was movie marathon day and before we knew it it was 5:00 pm. Before they went home, a sudden craving for samgyeopsal led us to this place.

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I have eaten in some Korean restaurants before but It was my first time to try eating at this place. I must say I enjoyed it. I have had samgyeopsal on a different restaurant in the past and this experience is way better than the first one.

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This unlimited samgyeopsal meal is complete with unlimited rice, egg soup and ice tea for only Php 289 per head. Sulit na! Lalu na kung matakaw ka. Haha.

Adventure number three sadly  did not push through and had to be rescheduled at a later date. That’s how I made my lemonade and earned from it. Hehe. Looking for next weekend’s adventures!

more adventures coming..

Peace out!

Adventures ni Tolits ’14

It’s that time of the year again. Formulate resolutions. Buy twelve pieces of twelve round fruits. Rearrange furniture. Wear something with polka-dots.  Make loud, obnoxious noise. Burn hard earned money(fireworks). It’s the last hurrah before the year ends and the welcome party for the coming new year.  All part of the traditional way of celebrating New Year’s day.

I don’t plan on being tagged as the Scrooge of New Year so I’ll keep my rants about some of these traditions to myself. (Send me a private message on Facebook and I’ll share them with you. Haha.) However one of them I feel strongly about, so I’ll share it. I have never been a fan of the so called “New Year’s Resolutions”. To me these are unrealistic goals that you will either forget or feel bad about, once the year ends and you realize you weren’t able meet them. This belief of mine was further reinforced during a conversation with someone I now consider as a mentor. He said that he prefers reflections over resolutions, mainly because on reflections, you will see how you past choices has affected your present and from there you can base your future. I found myself mentally and physically nodding as he was saying these things. I couldn’t agree more. Two years ago, it seems I had a similar idea. I made a note on Facebook sharing the random realizations I’ve had during the year. This post I’m writing now can be considered as the sequel.

2014 was a year full of adventures. The second day of the first month began with me traveling to Bonifacio Global City to take the final assessment before I officially start a new job.  Prior to this, I never thought I will be able to commute alone going to Manila. I found the idea too intimidating. I realize this might sound exaggerated to some, but that’s how it is for me. Fear of the unknown should not stop us from doing things, you will never know until you try.

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Something decided to make a comeback this year, my beer belly! Haha. Late last year till early this year I was finally able to trim my gut to a decent bump. By the middle of the year I noticed my midsection was growing again! I’m not sure if this is a reflection or an excuse but my returning belly meant I am able to have full meals regularly. I need to exercise though.

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I’d like to believe that it was maturity and experience that taught me to value relationships over pride. I have lost good friends in the past because I chose pride. There is no shame in making the first move to make amends and keep a relationship. However it’s also important to know which ones to hold on to and which ones to let go. The ones I have now, I intend to keep. You guys know who you are. Ditak kayu mu naman eh. Special mention my best bud,  eight years and counting man! Don’t make me a godfather yet. Let’s get filthy rich first!

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I’m not a regular church goer. This is due to the fact that I easily get distracted when attending mass with a lot of people. Getting distracted for me defeats the purpose of going to mass, which is to communicate with God. When I communicate with Him it’s like I’m talking to a best friend and I do this where ever I am because I believe He always listens.

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One of the questions I constantly get from family and friends is when will have my own family. I admit I have given this some thought. This will happen eventually, someday I will become a father and have a family of my own but for the time being, I do not see myself ready to take on that road.

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Judging a book by its cover is a well worn cliche for a reason. We tend to pass judgement based by what we see on the surface. Good thing we always have the option to open the book and read it. Several misconceptions of mine were corrected this year. There is really more then meets the eye. (cliche ulit!) Open the book, read it, comprehend. You might discover something legendary.

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Writing is something I’ve wanted to do for a long time but was never able to. It might have been fear, laziness or both that kept me from pursuing that dream. That dream became a reality because of this blog.(huge thanks WordPress!) I will continue writing my random thoughts on life’s never ending adventures regardless if other people reads it or not. There’s something fulfilling in seeing my thoughts in form of sentences that develop into stories and for me that is more than enough.

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More adventures coming..

 Gratitude 2014! What’s up 2015?! Happy New Year!

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Thoughts ni Tolits: Chapter 1

Random thoughts.

Some make sense.

Some do not.

It’s a glimpse inside my twisted mind.

Being average gives you your best chance to be great by your own efforts.

Your world is only as big or as small as you allow it to be.

It’s better to stay silent than try to explain to someone who has a shortage of brain cells.

Chase your dreams, no one else will chase them for you.

Some people are so full of air its amazing how they are able to stay on the ground and not float away.

It’s not what you wear, it’s who wears it.

Love is love. It is not bound by time or space, not limited by numbers, not determined by what is socially accepted.

There is a huge difference between being careful and being paranoid.

No matter how important you think you are, you are nothing but a minuscule dot in the universe.

When a mistake is repeatedly committed it evolves in to something called stupidity.

The number of people who are there during your funeral are not the measure of what your life was. It’s the number of people who will still remember you long after the funeral is over.

Happiness and Contentment.  Hardest to find, easiest to lose.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. However that does not mean that they are all right.

Fear of being alone often leads one to hold on to someone who has left or was not even there in the first place.

Even the best laid plans fail. Always have Plan B, C and D

Smoking is something smokers cannot explain and non smokers will never understand.

If you believe that someone is better than you are, then you are right.

When a someone is being nice it can mean two things. He/She is really a nice person. He/She needs something from you.

Time is the most precious yet most under appreciated gifts we were blessed with.

You’d be surprised at the things you will find out when you learn how to listen and not just hear.

When throwing something, be sure you will not regret it when someone picks it up.

Anything broken can always be put together, but it will never be the same again.

Age is not the sole basis of wisdom.

Pretending to be something that you’re not is the most pitiful state you can ever be in.

The pain of rejection is something that will not be numbed by the number of times you’ve experienced it.

No one has been blinded by looking at the bright side.

It’s not always someone to talk to, at times it’s just someone to listen.

Choosing is the easy part. Living with the consequences of that choice is the real challenge.

 

 

Peace out!

12.13.14

While browsing Facebook feeds I came across this photo. I excitedly downloaded it and was about to hit share when I realized that it pertains to yesterday’s date. Hehe. Oh well, I’ll just use it as the title of this post then.

12.13.14 was a Saturday. I planned to sleep till noon, check my blog, eat,  get some writing done, then meet a couple of friends for dinner. This plan changed when I got an text from my cousin asking me to accompany her in her Christmas shopping. My cousins I are quite close, but we rarely have time to bond, so I obliged to the invite.

One of the things I love and hate about the holiday season is that people seem to crawl out of the wood works all at the same time. It is nice to see families and group of friends bonding while doing their Christmas shopping. However this also means traffic, jam-packed restaurants and fast food, long lines at ATM machines, fitting rooms and cashiers.

This is exactly what my cousin and I encountered at a famous local mall. Fortunately with some patience, focus and luck, we were able to accomplish what we came for. Then came a happy interruption to our plans. We bumped into one of our cousins and she excitedly informed us that there was a free screening of Kapampangan movies. The word “free” was enough to catch my attention, but then she proceeded to tell us that her Mom and her sister were starring in one of the films to be shown!

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Next thing I knew we were inside the venue of Cine Kabalen, watching Kapampangan films. Then came Mis Da Ka. the film featuring my relatives. It was a surreal experience to watch people you knew your whole life on screen. The film was brilliant! I was not surprised when a text message from my cousin informed me that her sister bagged the Best Actress trophy, her second consecutive year of winning! and Mis Da Ka won Best Film and Best Director.

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Props to everyone involved not only in the movie but in the whole Cine Kabalen event. There should be more events like this.

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Groupie!

I then had to rush to another mall to meet with friends. When meeting with friends, I am more often than not late. Haha. It’s probably why karma decided to give me a dose of my own medicine. This time I was the one who was early. My original plan was to have dinner with them, however my stomach had other ideas. I ended up eating a meal by myself by the park benches. Lol.

The meet up was worth the wait though. These are people I knew in college but we moved in different social circles back then. There was hardly a trace of that last night though. Not only did I enjoy their company, I also learned and realized a lot of things. It was one of those moments you wanted to prolong but eventually had to end. It was an awesome ending to a very eventful day. Thanks Legendaries!

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Thanks Harry and Hermione!

It’s always good to have a plan. However, life is fond of throwing pleasant surprises and happy accidents our way that can set the plan off course. In these instances, its better to just go with it and have fun rather than be pissed. You might even end up enjoying the change. That was my 12.13.14. How was yours?

***credits to the owners of the photos used in this post

more adventures coming..

Peace out!